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FAQ #61: 
A better 2018, two months in
In the last days of 2017, I resolved to do my little part to make 2018 better. I decided that I'm going to change, then what I'm going to change and why those things, and how I'll change them.
Two months in, let's see how it's going.
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Overeating: I've made some progress. I have done this maybe 4 times, and mostly only slightly.
I still rarely separate the lunch and dinner before I start eating. What helped me get this right was mostly just having made myself the promise of not doing it, and having seriously thought through the consequences.
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Sleeping enough: I'm as surprised as you, but I actually made progress! Especially in February,
For a better 2018, final part
So far, I have decided that I'm going to change, then what I'm going to change and why I'm going to change those things. The last question: how?
Ideally each of these would be a skill or habit that I train until it's natural and mostly effortless.
I can only sketch the initial attempt at improving these things. With time I'll learn if they work or not and change the method. I'll reflect in a month.
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For overeating, the first step could be to decide how much I'll eat before I start eating. Ellen and I often cook more than we need to leave some for lunch. I could separate this in advance and leave only the amount I intend to eat, before I e
For a better 2018, part 3
Step 1 was deciding to better myself.
Step 2 was choosing five things I know I could do better. I have more, but five seems a good number to get started. And these five should lay a good basis for whatever may be next.
Step 3 is imagining. To be properly motivated to improve myself, it's important to realize well why I'm doing it - who I could be if I work on it, and who if I don't.
What if I don't?
If I don't improve on any of these dimensions, next year I'll be a year older and none the wiser. I'll still be wishing to improve on these things. I may have realized even more things I need to do better. I'll be further behind, and further fr
For a better 2018, part 2
What would "becoming a better person" look like, for me specifically?
I don't need to bother defining "good". I think I know how I can be better, if I ask myself.
I don't know how to be perfect. But some part in me knows at least 5 things I should be better at, by my own standards. My conscience tells me all the time. I just have to pay attention. That's hard, because I'm so used to ignoring it.
Actually, I just threw around the number 5, but let's see if I can come up with five.
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One of the most common things it tells me (that I ignore) is "you should stop eating now". When I ignore it, I often end up with stomach ache, or being unable
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