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3 things about me

Mon Feb 3, 2014, 4:44 PM


Hi great people! :hug: I regret that I haven't told you anything about myself in a long time. I'd like to open the conversation with you so I let pachunka's recent journal by this same title, as well as this one by LaurenKitsune, inspire me to also share 3 things I learned about myself recently :)

I need to be nice to myself

As a child, I was a dreamer (just ask my primary school teachers...), but I also have a practical problem solving mindset. Perhaps that’s something I learned as a boy scout when I was a teenager. Present me with a new problem and my first intuition is to try and think of solutions. This may sound obvious - if there’s a problem, you’ll want to solve it, right? But it’s my very first reaction, whereas some other people I’m close enough to to comment on are more likely to first analyse the new situation before trying to solve it. The funny consequence is that I occasionally end up suggesting four possible solutions to a new problem before realising that, all things considered, it doesn’t really need to be a problem in the first place.

I’m also an optimist with a very positive mindset. I’m happy with all these things. Yet together, they make me an ambitious person - which is also good, except that this causes me to be harsh on myself a lot. I know that I’m very lucky to be who I am, and to be in the position I’m in. If I’m really honest with myself I can’t think of anything I’d want to change about myself. Yet I always feel like I need to learn this and that and I should try such and such and I should do X and Y and Z more often. The stress this produces is counterproductive at best and toxic to my health and happiness at worst.

I don’t know how to relax

This is scary. This is a continuation of the above - I’m always busy and always feel I have something I need to do. But honestly, if there’s one thing I really need to do, it’s relaxing. I’ll be much healthier, happier, I’ll be able to work better as well. I just don’t really know how to. This is also because obligations and hobbies all live on the same laptop and there’s little separation between the two in time or place so I’m never really relaxing.

It’s different when I am with Gwendolyn12 and spend a lot of time only having fun with her. But I’m often without her for many months at a time and I cannot go without relaxing for so long. Relaxing is definitely something I need to learn.

I have a pretty good feel for data analysis

Let’s end on a positive note, shall we? My job involves quite some data analysis, of A/B tests for example - these are experiments where we show 2 versions of the website to different people and measure what people do with them, so we can decide which is best. So I always join every “data meeting” and can’t help but notice how easy it is for me to intuitively decide what to do next. So far, my gut feeling has proven 100% accurate in immediately predicting the conclusion we will come to in the end. :giggle: I guess I should speak up more and save them all some time!:lmao:


:phew: I'm glad I put that all down in a journal! It sounds weird, but writing it all down truly feels good and made me understand myself better, too. I strongly encourage you, my dear reader, to think about it too - what have you learned about yourself recently?



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mylastel Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2014
Four possible solutions... you must be a genius! If I were in your position, nah, I'd often spend time analyzing things first--that's what I am. =P 
:meow: I honestly find people who genuinely love themselves for being themselves charming. (Ugh, is my sentence correct? :noes:) Hearing and seeing people who are happy about themselves are inspiring and I find this trait of them admirable. Ow.. it's very hard for me to relax too! I get anxious easily and I'm inclined to worry and always keep thinking about the future so even when I'm supposed to be sleeping, I'm still thinking. I may be static physically at times, but my mind never ceased on thinking, so I find it hard to relax since birth. Ah wait, I can only relax when everything around me could be completely calm, which doesn't happen always. =P

Woo! I hope we could read more "about me" things from you. :ahoy: the more personal the better. :whisper: Haha! I got a nosy feeling at the moment. Yay!
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2014  Student Interface Designer
A genius is a mad man with an audience. I guess I am. :dummy:

Well, that has its advantages too! =P

Aww, thanks. :hug: Then I guess I am charming! :love: I do agree though!

Yes, it's correct! Or at least it makes sense! 

I'm not worried so much, about most parts of my life I have little to worry and I'm a flexible and positive person anyways so I'll find a way out of most that may come my way anyway. But I also don't want to waste time! We only have so much of it. Sadly, if I don't relax enough, I won't have so much of it. :P

Thank you, that's flattering! It's totally fine to be nosy. Ask me anything! :happybounce:


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FallenUmbrella Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I am sort of like you, but sometimes I like to do things and other times I like to do nothing xD It's great to know that you are very ambitious and optimistic and that you are trying to balance out the stress that comes with it. That is why you are awesome!
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
In what ways are you like me? :D

I like to do nothing, too. I just don't make time for it. :ashamed:

Woo thanks :love:
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FallenUmbrella Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm optimistic of course :D

Then make some time to do nothing. Sit around. Watch some youtube videos. Live :la:
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Woo! :highfive:

Oops, I wondered for a while how you'd watch youtube videos live. :lol:

You're right! Thanks :hug:
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petrova Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist
Ah yes, relaxing is something I'm practising too. My physiotherapist recommended 30 min before I go to bed to listen to a relax CD, I have so far not done that since 11 minutes of meditation which I'm trying now is too long, I start to wonder in the middle how long is left and then I actually do movement and sing along so I'm not hopeful for the relax CD. If you come up with ways to relax, please do share. I try everything once ;)
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Hehe, I will! :D And if you find one, please do let me know too :giggle: Good luck :hug:
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shehrozeameen Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
well, you learn everyday. :)

I wrote a roadtrip about myself, so that's what's on my mind :bucktooth:
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Gwendolyn12 Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
I love relaxing, and I'm a big fan of doing nothing. 
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
teach me please! :love:
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Gwendolyn12 Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Professional Traditional Artist
I have no clue how I can do so...
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Student Interface Designer
:giggle: let's practice together next time :heart:
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Daghrgenzeen Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Oooh, interesting! :la:
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
:aww: Thanks!
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xlntwtch Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014   Writer

You did a great job putting all that in your journal. :clap:


I'm not going to do the same thing because I feel we're different. I will say I'm shying away from writing to prompts anymore and find, besides a few pieces of flash fiction, I'm not writing at all--at least not here. I'm always writing and reading at home. I take walks to keep a bit more fit and sometimes watch a neighbor's TV to see 'what's what,' though I hate TVs. Most recently, the breaking news on the 'net was about Philip Seymour Hoffman dying and that made me very sad. He was a great character actor. I like to keep a finger on news (since being a reporter) and read The New Yorker for most of my information. Maybe I need to work on my aversion to TV or to prompts. "Prompts are harmless. You have features for your responses!" is what I should say to myself.

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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Haha, well if you're happy like it is, maybe you don't need to. :P

I normally avoid TV but I do find that when something interesting is on it can be a useful to relax.

This question seems random but I'm curious: do you think it's important for people to be aware of the news? Why or why not?
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xlntwtch Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014   Writer

Your first sentence in your reply went over my head. :shrug:


TV has the opposite effect on me.


Your question isn't random, it's a good one. Yes, I think people should be aware of the news.

It widens our worlds to know what other people, cities, the countryside and different countries do.

It's like reading books, only we're reading the present. We need to know more to grow ourselves.

That growth shows in whatever art we do, besides in our lives. It's not always easy, but it's good.

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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Sorry, the first sentence was in response to "Prompts are harmless. You have features for your responses!" is what I should say to myself. I think that if you're happy currently, perhaps there's no real reason to say that to yourself :P

You're right, it's not random, just quite unrelated :giggle: Thank you! :D
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xlntwtch Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014   Writer
Thank YOU, and you're welcome. :)
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014
Your three things are definitely tightly related to one another. :giggle: 

I'd have to think about mine, it's not very easy to give an answer to that. I found a few recently but I'm not very happy about them, to be honest? One of them is that I always want to learn more. Like everything, I want to know more of everything, and it makes me never satisfied with what I know and feel like I don't know anything at all. I'm very self-confident, but I always feel like I don't kow enough.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Yeah, even the third? How do you think it's related? :D I didn't realise that but you're probably right!

Curiosity is a great thing, imo, as is confidence, but I guess there's a "too much" for everything. ^^; That's pretty close to my 1st point, then!

Yeah, I suppose we're more likely to remember things we're not that happy about :P
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014
It's more related to the first than the second, but I think your problem-solving attitude leads to you to analyzing things and situations a lot, so you end up reviewing all the possibilities and things like that until eventually you get it, which happens before other people do, as you mentioned in your third thing, and you usually find the correct answer. And I don't think it's something too driven by your brain either, it's just gut sometimes.

:D there definitely is. And I guess so, in a way. I'm very rational, so I do tend to have the analyzing attitude to things. But not because of finding solutions, because of wanting to know more I guess? :lol:

:nod: true.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
I think you might be right actually! Now that we have all the tools to make the analysis itself easy to do, the main problem many people have with data analysis is keeping in mind what they actually want to achieve. My problem-solving attitude helps keep me on track. :dummy:

Is your desire to know more emotional or rational?
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2014
:nod: 

It's mostly rational. I can be a very scientific, rational individual when it comes to knowledge snd studies, so while on one hand learning is fun, it's also learning for the sake of knowing more and understanding more of things.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Cool! What do you do with all that knowledge?

Also, what's a recent interesting thing you learned?
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014
Use it to learn more! :la: and be silly and play with things.

I am learning about hair science more. It's really a lot of fun, ingredients-wise and so on, also the composition of hair and its properties. (: I'm a chemist, so I start from a solid base already, but it's still very fun.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Oh, awesome. :#1: How do you play with it? :XD:

:lol: that's interesting indeed!

Is it hard to find work in the chemistry sector?
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Jenniej92 Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
mooi geschreven :)



alles verder goed in het normale leven?
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Dank je :aww:

:XD: Dit IS mijn normale dagelijkse leven. :noes: Maar ja hoor verder is het prima. :D Met jou?
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Jenniej92 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
hahahah xD vastgezogen aan de computer ;)

jaaa gaat goed hoor! net bachelor gehaald dus ga me in de master storten! :la:
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Haha nou ja ik kom wel buiten! =P

Gefeliciteerd! :party: Wat voor master precies?
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Jenniej92 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
gelukkig maar xD

dankjewel!
ik ga de master orthopedagogiek richting gehandicaptenzorg volgen :D
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Succes :happybounce: hoe gaat het verder?
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Jenniej92 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
prima hoor :D
zn saaie gangetje ;)
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Waarom saai :(
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NAkos Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow. I am the problem solver one too (same way described it), but sadly I am on the pessimist part of the spectrum. So I have hard time trying to be an optimist, and just after that trying to be nice to myself. Very energy consuming thing, but helps a lot since I know this about my self.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
:) Interesting! Well, I *am* happy with my problem solving nature. It just causes funny mistakes sometimes. :XD:

I'm glad that helps! What do you do to help yourself with it?
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NAkos Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Well anytime something becomes stressful when I start to think positively it become less stressful. But it is hard to think positive sometimes but slowly I getting better in it.
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Oh good, good luck :D
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Exillior Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Relaxing is easy! You just lie on your bed and close your eyes. Et voila!

Three things about me:
1. I am an INFJ by any poll, questionnaire or test. Well, it's not that recent.
2. I'm incredibly impatient. Seriously, I have no idea why I look so calm all the time, because really on the inside I'm always fuming with impatience.
3. I find it easy to say goodbye. Supposedly it's meant to be hard to say goodbye, or so the songs say...
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Mais non :XD: I wish it were that easy for me! :giggle: Physically relaxing is relatively easy, yes. But mentally, no, I haven't really found a good way yet.

1. I guess that fits you :nod: I haven't done tests in a long time but I'd guess I'm IST... hm, not sure about J or P. I guess I could try some of those questionnaires. Actually, since I need to do less and all that, I think I'll just accept that I'm probably in the middle. :B Also since the descriptions of ISTJs or ISTPs don't sound like me, to me.
2. Yeah, I had no idea. :lol: any idea why you're so impatient?
3. I do, too. :highfive: Or more specifically, I can accept the goodbye and it doesn't usually hurt me much. Actually *saying* goodbye is awkwardly hard precisely because of this; I'm scared it makes me come off as insensitive :slow:
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014
INFJ?
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Exillior Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I thought we'd discussed these before? :? INFJ is a personality type in the Myers-Briggs system. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Br… It's a big long winded but you can also look up Jung and Keirsey, whose work also influenced these.
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HtBlack Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2014
After reading the article things came back to mind, yeah. I guess it was partially forgotten. My brain is not what it used to be anymore. :noes:
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DecepticonFlamewar Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I wish I knew how to relax, too. :( 
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namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Student Interface Designer
:huggle: What makes it hard for you to relax?
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DecepticonFlamewar Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
On paper? The anxiety disorder.

A more useful way of explaining it is that I'm always worrying about something, even things I can't control and even things that don't really matter. If I have nothing to worry about I'm beating myself for past failures, even ones from my early childhood more than 20 years ago. On really bad days I do both. Mental illness for the lose.
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