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3 things about me

Mon Feb 3, 2014, 4:44 PM

Hi great people! :hug: I regret that I haven't told you anything about myself in a long time. I'd like to open the conversation with you so I let pachunka's recent journal by this same title, as well as this one by LaurenKitsune, inspire me to also share 3 things I learned about myself recently :)

I need to be nice to myself

As a child, I was a dreamer (just ask my primary school teachers...), but I also have a practical problem solving mindset. Perhaps that’s something I learned as a boy scout when I was a teenager. Present me with a new problem and my first intuition is to try and think of solutions. This may sound obvious - if there’s a problem, you’ll want to solve it, right? But it’s my very first reaction, whereas some other people I’m close enough to to comment on are more likely to first analyse the new situation before trying to solve it. The funny consequence is that I occasionally end up suggesting four possible solutions to a new problem before realising that, all things considered, it doesn’t really need to be a problem in the first place.

I’m also an optimist with a very positive mindset. I’m happy with all these things. Yet together, they make me an ambitious person - which is also good, except that this causes me to be harsh on myself a lot. I know that I’m very lucky to be who I am, and to be in the position I’m in. If I’m really honest with myself I can’t think of anything I’d want to change about myself. Yet I always feel like I need to learn this and that and I should try such and such and I should do X and Y and Z more often. The stress this produces is counterproductive at best and toxic to my health and happiness at worst.

I don’t know how to relax

This is scary. This is a continuation of the above - I’m always busy and always feel I have something I need to do. But honestly, if there’s one thing I really need to do, it’s relaxing. I’ll be much healthier, happier, I’ll be able to work better as well. I just don’t really know how to. This is also because obligations and hobbies all live on the same laptop and there’s little separation between the two in time or place so I’m never really relaxing.

It’s different when I am with Gwendolyn12 and spend a lot of time only having fun with her. But I’m often without her for many months at a time and I cannot go without relaxing for so long. Relaxing is definitely something I need to learn.

I have a pretty good feel for data analysis

Let’s end on a positive note, shall we? My job involves quite some data analysis, of A/B tests for example - these are experiments where we show 2 versions of the website to different people and measure what people do with them, so we can decide which is best. So I always join every “data meeting” and can’t help but notice how easy it is for me to intuitively decide what to do next. So far, my gut feeling has proven 100% accurate in immediately predicting the conclusion we will come to in the end. :giggle: I guess I should speak up more and save them all some time!:lmao:

:phew: I'm glad I put that all down in a journal! It sounds weird, but writing it all down truly feels good and made me understand myself better, too. I strongly encourage you, my dear reader, to think about it too - what have you learned about yourself recently?

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mylastel Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2014
Four possible solutions... you must be a genius! If I were in your position, nah, I'd often spend time analyzing things first--that's what I am. =P 
:meow: I honestly find people who genuinely love themselves for being themselves charming. (Ugh, is my sentence correct? :noes:) Hearing and seeing people who are happy about themselves are inspiring and I find this trait of them admirable. Ow.. it's very hard for me to relax too! I get anxious easily and I'm inclined to worry and always keep thinking about the future so even when I'm supposed to be sleeping, I'm still thinking. I may be static physically at times, but my mind never ceased on thinking, so I find it hard to relax since birth. Ah wait, I can only relax when everything around me could be completely calm, which doesn't happen always. =P

Woo! I hope we could read more "about me" things from you. :ahoy: the more personal the better. :whisper: Haha! I got a nosy feeling at the moment. Yay!
namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 28, 2014  Student Interface Designer
A genius is a mad man with an audience. I guess I am. :dummy:

Well, that has its advantages too! =P

Aww, thanks. :hug: Then I guess I am charming! :love: I do agree though!

Yes, it's correct! Or at least it makes sense! 

I'm not worried so much, about most parts of my life I have little to worry and I'm a flexible and positive person anyways so I'll find a way out of most that may come my way anyway. But I also don't want to waste time! We only have so much of it. Sadly, if I don't relax enough, I won't have so much of it. :P

Thank you, that's flattering! It's totally fine to be nosy. Ask me anything! :happybounce:

FallenUmbrella Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I am sort of like you, but sometimes I like to do things and other times I like to do nothing xD It's great to know that you are very ambitious and optimistic and that you are trying to balance out the stress that comes with it. That is why you are awesome!
namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
In what ways are you like me? :D

I like to do nothing, too. I just don't make time for it. :ashamed:

Woo thanks :love:
FallenUmbrella Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm optimistic of course :D

Then make some time to do nothing. Sit around. Watch some youtube videos. Live :la:
namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Woo! :highfive:

Oops, I wondered for a while how you'd watch youtube videos live. :lol:

You're right! Thanks :hug:
petrova Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Hobbyist
Ah yes, relaxing is something I'm practising too. My physiotherapist recommended 30 min before I go to bed to listen to a relax CD, I have so far not done that since 11 minutes of meditation which I'm trying now is too long, I start to wonder in the middle how long is left and then I actually do movement and sing along so I'm not hopeful for the relax CD. If you come up with ways to relax, please do share. I try everything once ;)
namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Hehe, I will! :D And if you find one, please do let me know too :giggle: Good luck :hug:
shehrozeameen Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
well, you learn everyday. :)

I wrote a roadtrip about myself, so that's what's on my mind :bucktooth:
namenotrequired Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2014  Student Interface Designer
Oh cool! :D What is "a roadtrip about myself"?
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